The Tao of Heartbreak

“Heartbreak asks us not to look for an alternative path, because there is no alternative path. It is a deeper introduction to what we love and have loved, an inescapable and often beautiful question, something or someone who has been with us all along, asking us to be ready for the last letting go.” –David Whyte

We all know love involves heartbreak and yet we seem to take it on as though the heart-breaking aspects of it can and/or should be avoided. Problem is love and heartbreak are a package deal—one doesn’t come without the other, and really this is a desirable thing.

Heartbreak is essentially an opening of the heart; it is an expansion of our ability to feel, to know, and to be more fully alive and more deeply engaged in the project of living.

Refusing to risk heartbreak is tantamount to a refusal of love itself—its beauty, warmth and richness, along with its wondrous complexity.

To love and be loved is essential, but as the quote above beautifully illustrates, it all circles back to letting go, one way or another, leaving us always at the threshold of our solitude.

And solitude is none other than a profound experience of love in its largest, most expansive and, paradoxically, inclusive sense.